Monday, 25 February 2019

Letting love in

Some people have a hard time letting love in. I used to be like this, I was so shut off from everything around me. Whether it be friendships or guys I just had my four walls up and no one was coming in. In my head I believed if I was to let anyone into my life that everything else would just crumble. I mean I thought this because this happened, I guess I was just comparing what happened in a previous relationship to every situation. So for two years I created this bubble around me and I didn't let anyone near- in this space of time I wouldn't even say I made many new friends because I was scared of getting hurt once again, rejected, I just didn't trust anyone. I knew that this was happening and honestly shutting everything out wasn't really helping as I didn't feel happy. I can remember going to an event and the lady asked everyone what do we love about ourselves and honestly at that point I realised that something needed to change. I couldn't even name one thing that I loved about myself.
So for me I knew I needed to start focusing on self love and care,  and when I say self care I don't mean massages and cucumber shit. NO!!! I mean real acts of self love that would completely transform my mindset. I started to read more, meditate, journal daily and do affirmations. That's when it all changed. Just taking an hour out of my day to do these daily rituals completely transformed me and my mind.

Now they're many reasons we don't let love in, for me it was a case of not knowing who I was or what I wanted. But in order for someone to love you then you need to love yourself and I didn't. You need to accept yourself, accept all the weird and wonderful's things you do because that's part of you and you shouldn't want to change it. 
Have you ever felt like you aren't good enough?
Ever felt like you are worthy of love?
Or you don't have any love to give?

Haven't we all at some point in life?
Stop being afraid of love and be appreciative of it ; it's such a beautiful thing.

"The end of fear is where we begin the moment we decided to let love in
There's nothing we can do about the things we have to do without
The only way to feel again is let love in."
Goo Goo Dolls
The point is: losing love sucks and I don't disagree with that for a minute. Cliche as it might be, that old quote "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" really is true. Losing love can be terrible and terrifying, but does it mean we shouldn't love?
Just ask yourself what do you really have to lose? Go on that date. What are you going to lose?
Just think about what you can gain from love instead of what you can lose. You can gain a lot from love. When someone in your life really loves you, that person will be there to support you.
Stop being afraid of something that is so natural in life.

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