Thursday, 1 February 2018

Staying true to yourself

Being true to yourself is definitely a long- life practice which requires commitment. You will know deep down if you are true to yourself and you don't put on a act. It will be the feeling you get after you realise your beginning  to understand who you are and the actions you make. To be able to understand yourself fully you will need to be able to trust yourself and understand the awareness your body has in day to day life. It's obviously different for each of you out there because we are all unique, we all act in different ways and make decisions.

There are so many beautiful, talented souls in the world. Don't let anything stand in the way of your potential. In life there are so many people that tell you that you can't do something. You can't let them bring you down. True friends will believe in you and lift you up. Don't allow anyone to tell you that you can't live your dream. Realise who you can trust, cherish those special friendships, you know the ones who are really there for you. Like I've said before I would much rather have a small circle of friends that really care about me than loads who never even arrange to see me. I don't need fake friends, I don't have time for people to waste my time. I see so many people just associating themselves with individuals just because they have a good reputation and all of that, but that isn't being true to you is it? Know who your friends are, their going to be the ones that stick by your side through everything.

Being honest with yourself is crucial. However self- honesty is hard as we are designed to lie to ourselves- which has been proven in recent surveys. Being honest with yourself means seeing yourself clearly. If we aren’t honest with ourselves then we can’t expect to learn and grow as individuals, because we aren’t willing to recognize reality for what it is. Being honest doesn't always equal happiness, it can be tough and challenging, but life isn't meant to be easy. Always take time to reflect on your day, how did it go?, how did your actions or other people actions make you feel? What could of gone better?. By doing this you will start to realise what does make you happy, I mean we are always learning everyday something new about ourselves. 

I can remember being at school when I was younger and I would always wear this feather hair piece( you know the ones that were attached to the hair grip) I loved it! I thought it was great because no one else had one in my school. But then I started to get girls being really bitchy towards me and  saying things about it, you know because it was unusual. I was obviously very young so at first it upset me and I didn't  want to wear it again, but after realising  it didn't matter what others said to me I was going to make a point and wear this feather hair piece everyday.
For me fashion is a big part of my life, it helps express who I am and just speaks a thousand words. Not long ago I brought this new hat, and like anything new you usual want to wear it straight away and I can remember being stood outside of next with my Grandma and some lad coming over to me and just laughing in my face and saying unnecessary things. Whereas this time I just smiled at him , I felt confident with my outfit choice, I loved this hat. I don't care what anyone thinks of me, wear what you want! Don't let anyone tell you something is horrible, doesn't suit you , none of that! It's totally your choice. As my friends have told me before- I don't do casual. I mean I love going out and getting dressed up whether it's to the shops or going to a nice restaurant , just being able to wear what you want feels amazing. 
So for me I love being glam, you will never see me without anything sparkly on, always wearing heels and of course I will always have a handbag! I think your style really does show your identity , don't fear judgment of others. You can never be overdressed no matter what the occasion is, start taking risks with fashion and stepping over the lines, just go for it. You need to apply this to your life and don’t set boundaries on not only fashion but anything you come across in life.

Say what you want to say. “People can tell you to keep your mouth shut, but that doesn't stop you from having your own opinion.” 
― Anne FrankThe Diary of a Young Girl

Stop caring what others think.You are never going to please everyone!

1. It's not their life, so it's none of their business.What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to.

2. It will stop you from fulling your goals and dreams.If you are constantly thinking about other people's opinions how are you ever going to focus on your goals and aspirations 

3. People's opinions/thoughts change. We are always changing what we think, or what we want for dinner, so if someone doesn't like you now they might grow to like you over time( but who really cares?.)

4. Life is way too short. I will always say, " Life is short, buy the shoes."- which yes is true! However life is precious and simply too short to worry about opinions from other's.

5. Others Don’t Care As Much As You Think. Sometimes it's all in your head, you build it all up and really they probably don't think about you much at all.

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