Thursday, 25 January 2018

How to build your self confidence

Confidence? Everyone has a different opinion on it, and everyone copes in different ways. " I found I was more confident when I stopped trying to be someone else's definition of beautiful and started being my own"- Remington Miller 

Whoever said beauty meant having a pretty face, was wrong. Because it's not, it's about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart and a beautiful soul. The most important thing about self confidence is not caring what others think, learn to love the body you are in. To be able to pursue your goals and dreams you need to be able to overcome your fears and have confidence. I can't tell you enough how important it is to work on your self- confidence and self- esteem. I completely understand everyone has off days and sometimes you will feel a bit rubbish, we are only human at the end of the day. You need to take control of your self- confidence. Below I am going to tell you a few things that will hopefully help you feel more confident within yourself and just feel better about yourself.

  1. Stay away from negativity and bring on the positivity.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   You need to surround yourself with positive people, cut the negative people from your life. Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel, energies are contagious. Associate yourself with people that inspire you.                                                                                                                                                                                                     
  2.  Change your body language .                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Your posture speaks a thousand words, standing tall instantly will have a reflection on  your appearance and will make you feel so much better about yourself. Just the simple act of pulling your shoulders back gives others the impression that you are a confident person. A smile is the prettiest thing you can wear, it will not only make you feel better, but will make others feel more comfortable around you. Smiling intimidates the ones who wish to destroy you. Smile more.                                                                                                                                                                            
  3. Create personal boundaries.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Learn to say no. Don't let others disrespect you and don't disrespect yourself. By  saying no doesn't make you an unkind person just shows you have self respect.  Take responsibility for how you allow others to treat you. Your boundaries act as  filters permitting what is acceptable in your life and what is not. By not having  boundaries that protect and define you, as in a strong sense of identity, you tend to derive your sense of worth from others.                                                                                                                                                                                                            
  4. Visualize yourself as you want to be.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Don't let anyone tell you how to act, what to do , how to dress. You make them decisions. Seeing is believing. If we have low confidence we will struggle to believe in our self and visualize our goals.                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
  5.  Do one thing that scares you every day.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        This is the best way to overcome your fears. Fear is a great motivator for day-to-   day actions and broader life decision-making. You are always one decision away from a  totally different life. Start challenging yourself, do something you have always wanted to do but have never had the courage. Stop waiting till tomorrow.                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
  6.  Don’t compare yourself to anyone.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Admire someone else's beauty without questioning your own. Why do we as humans   feel the need to compare our appearances to others and our life's? You are all so  different. We as humans are unique so it's impossible to compare ourselves. Ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life.                                                                                                                                                 
  7. Look after yourself.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         The most important thing to build your self- confidence is taking care of yourself, get your hair done, nails done, get a massage, meditate, even just go for a walk. It's crucial you take care of yourself and reward your body.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
  8.  Get to know yourself.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    When you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself. I love doing this I always write down what I eat and how it makes me feel because I like to know how certain food impacts my body. Also every morning I write in my gratitude book and will write down 5 things I am grateful for that day. This has really helped me understand the value of life and really get close to my inner self and understand why I do things and how it makes me feel.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
  9.  Exercise.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         So I exercise every single day and I mean since training in Musical Theatre it's not like I am just doing an hour of exercise it's for most of the day which leaves me feeling amazing it boots my self- esteem straight away. For those who don't exercise much I would really recommend just going a big walk , or a run whatever you prefer but I promise you, that you will feel amazing afterwards.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
  10.  Dress to impress.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            You put a pretty dress on, a pair of your favourite heels, them new earrings you have been meaning to wear and have a glass of champagne in your hand and I am sure you will feel amazing. However don't dress for anyone but  yourself, stop trying to please that boy you like by wearing the dress you brought last week. Do this for you. Start thinking of yourself, how does it make you feel. You stare at your own reflection as you walk by shop windows. Stop trying to please  everyone, because you just won't. Life is short so make every outfit count.

" There is no competition , because nobody can be me"

I hope this makes you more aware of to build your self- confidence. Stop shying away from things, embrace what your momma gave you huns.

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